very first thing I noticed about her house was the smell. The odor grabbed me the minute we walked through the front
door. It wrapped around me like an impenetrable cage, trapping my senses. My hands wanted to reach up and cover my nose in safety. My eyes franctically searched for a clock as if being able to watch the time move forward might help save me from my immediate discomfort. I began noticing things. My friend’s hair; hair I had said was “thick like mine,” at school, suddenly seemed like a different kind of thick. I looked at her and saw every detail of different in the texture of her thick hair. Next, my mind took me back to the news I had recently overheard on TV about the Gulf War. Pictures of fighter jets and bombs had flashed across our TV screen. Thinking about it reminded me that there were scary “other” countries out there. As I stood in my friend’s home, it all at once felt imperative to remember if it was Iran or Iraq that we were at war with. I was in junior high. My
new friend was my first Iranian-American friend and she had eagerly invited me
into her house for the first time just a few weeks prior.
after the inaudible introduction of smell, my friend introduced
me to her mother. Her mother stood in the kitchen, and beside her hands hard at work over an open counter, was a stack of homemade flatbread. It towered proudly, speaking
straight to my ignorance. We exchanged a few polite words. As I listened to her mother speak, I noticed how her
English words were accessorized with an accent like my own mother’s, and how
there was something in the way of her intensity as she prepared food for her
family’s table, that reminded me of my own mother’s passion to feed
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year. We laughed there, connected there, and though I didn’t know it at the time, I learned and grew there in ways
that would shape me for the rest of my life. It seemed that smell I first encountered changed over time; but what really changed was me.
year, my friend Michelle texted me and asked me if I would meet her at a local
Korean restaurant. We had been friends for a couple of years at that
point. It meant the world to me that she knew I was Korean. It may seem silly to have
to say this, but I can’t tell you how many white friends I have had that might
not be able to tell you if I was Korean, Japanese or Chinese after
years of knowing me. She remembered. We sat at the
table, and I watched her try Bibimbap and handle her first servings of Oi
Kimchi and Gochujang like a boss, despite her unfamiliarity and claims she had made before ordering that she couldn’t handle spicy food. We
talked about both of our lives, but as we sat there across the table, our
Jeokkarak (traditional Korean stainless steel chopsticks) in hand, she asked me questions about the Korean parts of my story. And then, she listened. Her text of invitation to meet for Korean food was simple, but
intentional. She had no guarantees of enjoying the new-to-her flavors, but she moved towards what was different in our friendship anyway. And it healed a small piece of broken in me.
The broken place of hatred and racism in our world breaks God’s heart more than any of ours. If you are hurting in this place, he is catching your tears; not one goes unnoticed! And, he cries with you. He is FOR you. If you are afraid and living in fear, he is the answer to your deepest fears of different. His perfect love is the only thing that can drive that fear away. He is FOR you. When the headlines haunt me, break my heart and ridicule the hope I have for healing in this broken place, I find peace and hope and renewed motivation in who the Bible says that Jesus is. He tells his imperfect yet perfectly-loved followers to become like him. He is FOR US. Us together is where holy things happen in His name.
Jesus moved towards different. He calls his Bride to the same.